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AroAce
Aromantic asexual, often shortened to aroace or aro ace, is a term that refers to a individual who is both aromantic/aro-spec and asexual/ace-spec. Aroace can be used for any individual who identifies with both spectrums. For example, an aromantic asexual, an aromantic demisexual, an acespike frayromantic, and a lithromantic greysexual can all be described as aroace.
Some aroaces may experience other forms of attraction that are neither romantic nor sexual, such as queerplatonic attraction, alterous attraction, or sensual attraction. If they feel that this attraction is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation, they may identify as oriented aroace or angled aroace.
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Flags
At least eleven flag designs have been proposed to represent the combination of the aro and ace umbrellas. [1] Most designs combine some elements from the aromantic and asexual flags, which feature green and purple, respectively. [2] [3]
In 2016, a design was posted by DeviantArt user Pride-Flags that combined the aromantic and asexual flags directly. [4] Another design was later posted to the same account, embedding the aromantic flag in a heart shape, using an older (yellow) design for the aromantic flag. [5]
In 2017, a design was posted by DeviantArt user decaykid, using one less stripe and slightly different versions of the same colors. [6]
June 2018, two designs were posted by Tumblr user llonnoll, mirroring the fused aromantic and asexual flags to have an equal number of colored stripes. [7]
In July 2018, a collaborative design was posted by Tumblr user itsrainingsomewhereelse, created by themselves and Tumblr user vass-rieh. [7] This design placed the black stripe at the top, followed by purple, gray, white, pale green, and dark green. According to the introduction post, the white stripe represents «the importance and validity of all relationships.»
In August 2018, two more designs were posted on the joint Tumblr account milkshakeflags. [8] These designs both placed white horiztonal stripes in the middle, surrounded by two gray stripes. In one version, the white-gray center was bordered by two purple stripes on top and two green stripes on bottom. In the other version, the top purple stripe and bottom green stripe was changed to black.
In early December 2018, a design was posted by Tumblr user Aroaesflags. [9] This design starts with an orange stripe at the top, followed by a yellow stripe, a white stripe, and two shades of blue. According to the introduction post, the white stripe represents «wholeness,» the yellow represents «love and relationships,» and the orange represents «community.» This is one of the most popular aroace flags, as it’s unique design shows that the aroace identity is something unique and is not just a combination of asexual and aromantic.
In late December 2018, a design was posted by Tumblr user aromagni. [10] This design placed a purple stripe at the top, followed by blue, pale green, white, and gray stripes. According to the introduction post, the blue represents the «intersection of having both ace and aro identities,» and the white represents «unity and inclusion.»
In March 2019, Tumblr user noxatrae posted a version of the aroace flag. The design was made by replacing the black and grey stripes of the asexual flag with the greens of the aromantic flag. [11]
In April 2019, a design was posted by Reddit user dog_of_society. [12] [13] This design combined the asexual flag with a spade symbol on a green triangle.
In September 2020, a design was posted by Tumblr user pastelpansies. [14] This design combined varying shades of pastel purple and green, placing a pastel purple stripe at the top, a slightly lighter purple under it, white in the center, a pastel teal stripe, and a slightly darker pastel teal under it. According to the tumblr post, the purple means «acceptance», the lighter purple means «love», the white means «unity», the lighter teal means «peace», and the teal means «dependability». This design combines the colors of the original aroace flags, but does it in a way that’s unique enough to show that it is its own identity.
Another aroace flag was coined by Cryptocrew at Hayden000s request on January 16, 2021 and was first published on a post one day later. It is a mix of Cryptocrews aromantic flag and Cryptocrews asexual flag.
A symmetrical Aroace flag was made by Fandom user RavenFire803 on July 6th, 2021.
Similar Terms
Ay: A term for individuals who are both not allosexual and not alloromantic” [16]
Nullic/Nullian: March 2020 by user @4874deceive on tumblr. “ Orientation version of gendernull. aroace but undefined, like dividing by 0. void, nonexistent, impossible.” [17]
Spadillic/ Spadille : Reddit user Kingdomcrown/ Tumblr @Glassreefshark. “A general nickname for someone who feels no romantic/sexual attraction.” Derived from the ace of spades from ace community symbolism. [18]
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Aromantic
Aromantic (or Aro) is a romantic orientation that describes experiencing little to no romantic attraction to any genders. Aromantic as an identity by itself means experiencing no romantic attraction however there is a spectrum of other (arospec) identities experiencing attraction under specific circumstances/differently to the norm. Common experiences of an aromantic person can include disinterest in romantic relationships, an only theoretical understanding of romantic attraction, or aversion to romance.
For various misconceptions about aromanticism, see the myths for more information.
As with any romantic orientation, aromantic people may identify with any sexual orientation label.
One of the first places the term «aromantic» was used online was the AVEN forums in 2005, [1] where «aromantic» was derived as a romantic parallel to asexual. [2]
Flags [ ]
At least three different aromantic community flag designs have been proposed. Currently, the most popular is the design with two shades of green, white, gray, and black. This design is used both in the graphic design for the aromantic forum Arocalypse, the aromantic advocacy site AUREA, and aromantic-official.
Oldest flag design
The oldest aromantic flag design was proposed sometime during or before 2011, via the now-defunct website of the National Coalition for Aromantic Visibility. [3] This design featured horizontal stripes in the colors green, yellow, orange, and black. According to their website, «Green is for aromantics, who do not naturally experience romantic attachment. Yellow represents romantic friendship, friends with benefits, and friendship dating. Orange stands for lithromantics, individuals who experience romantic love but do not wish it returned. And finally, the black stripe is for romantics who consciously choose to reject traditional romantic culture.» This flag was subject to extensive criticism.
Green, light green, yellow, gray, and black flag
An alternative flag design was proposed in 2014 by Cameron, maintaining the green and yellow but introducing more of a gradient design, with two slightly different shades of green and preceding the black stripe with a stripe of gray. [4] The two greens represent the aromantic spectrum, the yellow represents platonic love and relationships, and the gray and black stripes represent the sexuality spectrum, representing aromantics of all sexual orientations. [5]
Green, light green, white, gray, and black flag
Later in 2014, Cameron decided to change the yellow stripe to white. [6] This is probably the flag design that most aromantics are used to, unless the have been a romantic for 7 years+.The symbolism of this design is largely the same. [7] This flag has since been embraced and gained the most popularity as a flag for the aromantic community. As stated in Cameron’s explanation, this flag design is explicitly intended for the entire aro umbrella, including grayromantics, demiromantics, lithromantics, and more.
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Quoiromantic
The commonly used quoiromantic flag
Cor’s original flag design, edited to add the intended transparency
Another alternate quoiromantic flag, similar to the commonly used one.
Another alternate quoiromantic flag. Colors are based on the colors of the original, just with more colors and hues in between the original colors.
Quoiromantic (also called WTFromantic or Whatromantic) is a term associated with challenging one’s own romantic orientation as not personally helpful. It also can include not knowing one’s romantic orientation or not wanting to define one’s romantic orientation.
Quoiromantic experiences may include:
History
As a consequence of the romantic orientation model becoming popular in the asexual community in the 2000s, some asexual individuals began to openly discuss why the model did not feel right for them. [3] For example, Kaz wrote that for zer, asking «so what’s your romantic orientation?» is «the wrong question.» [4] In 2011, in order to express frustration with the system, Sciatrix (at Writing From Factor X) began half-jokingly referring to herself as «wtfromantic» (as in «what-the-fuck-romantic»). [5] [6] In her words, «it started as a flippant, honestly fairly sarcastic frustrated comment, not an attempt as a serious identity designation,» one she did not expect to resonate with other individuals. [7]
As a more pronounceable alternative to wtfromantic, the term quoiromantic was first coined by Tumblr user Epochryphal (Cor) in 2012, based on quoi, the French word for «what.» [8] Cor defines quoiromantic as «actively disidentifying» with romance, romantic attraction, or romantic orientation as «sensible/applicable categories» for oneself. [9]
Flag and Symbolism
Old version of the black-green-blue design
A number of flag designs and symbols have been proposed for quoiromanticism.
In 2015, Cor proposed cos own flag design for quoi identities, including quoigender, quoisexual, and quoiromantic: four lavender question marks, rotated in a ring to share a single dot, as if spinning in a circle. This design was overlaid on a cool grey background in a house-shape, instead of the traditional rectangular flag. [10] The choice of question marks as a symbol references the questioning basis of quoi as an identity term.
Later version of the black-green-blue design for quoiromantic.
Prior to that, other flag design proposals for a quoiromantic and quoisexual flag have combined blue, green, black, and white or gray, in varying configurations. [11]
The earliest of these appears to have been first proposed in 2014, with stripes in black, white, lime green, and light blue, but was later redesigned in approximately 2015, to black, a more muted green, a more muted blue, and pale gray. [12] [13] The original posts for both of these proposals appear to have since been lost and can only be accessed in their archived form via the Wayback Machine.
Lavender version of the triangular flag design
More recently, some simplified designs have been proposed inspired by the nontraditional flag shape idea, using a triangular flag shape instead, with the intent of being easier to physically reproduce. [14] Like Cor’s design, these designs exhibit a ring of question mark symbols sharing a single dot, except that the number of question marks is three instead of four. These designs have been proposed in both a green and a lavender version, in reference to previous designs. The green version is intended for quoi orientation identities, specifically. The lavender version is intended for quoi identities as a whole, as with Cor’s design, «to honor its intentional vagueness.» This leaves it open to use for other types of quoi identities, such as quoigender.
Other proposed quoi symbols include the Spiral Q symbol, which combines a gray spiral with the letter «Q,» styled with a gap and dot underneath to resemble a question mark. [15] The spiral and question mark symbolism are intended to represent dizziness, ambiguity, and questioning. The blue, green, and turquoise color gradient, as well, is intended to represent ambiguity, both via the gradient and due to the breadth of colors that can be considered «turquoise.» In the same way that turquoise can be both and neither blue or green, this symbol represents a disidentification with the romantic/nonromantic distinction.
However, the black, more muted green, more muted blue, pale gray, colors have been used more commonly in the quoiromantic community, and the black, white, lime green, and light blue, has been more commonly used among the quoisexual communitys, although some individuals do use the quoisexual flag for quoiromantic. [1]
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Cupioromantic
The cupioromantic flag, by anonymous.
An alternate cupioromantic flag, by idratherhavecake.
An alternate cupioromantic flag by unknown.
another cupioromantic pride flag by Poggingcameron
Alternate cupioromantic flag by Fandom user Mothfree
Alternate cupioromatic flag by ElderflowerJuice
Cupioromantic, previously known as kalosromantic, is a micro-label on the aromantic spectrum. Cupioromantic is defined as someone who does not experience romantic attraction but still desires a romantic relationship. Cupioromantic individuals are typically romance favorable but they do not have to be. Cupioromantic may also be used by those who sometimes feel romantic attraction but still desire a romantic relationship even without attraction, for example, a demiromantic individual who dates someone before they feel attraction to them, possibly on the assumption that they will develop romantic attraction later on. Another example could be someone who is frayromantic who dates someone after they lose their romantic attraction.
The sexual equivalent of cupioromantic is cupiosexual. the opposite is orchidromantic.
History
Kalosromantic was coined by Tumblr user acelyssie on or before June 16, 2014. [1] It is unknown when or why the term was changed to cupioromantic.
The cupio- flag was designed by an unknown DeviantArt user on or before July 4, 2015. [2] The color meaning is unknown.
The cupioromantic flag was proposed by an anonymous Fandom user in October 2020. This was done to help distinguish between the cupiosexual flag and the cupioromantic flag, as the flags were the same beforehand. The flag was turned upside down, since the aromantic flag is upside down compared to the asexual flag. Another stripe was also added to match the aromantic flag, which, in the same way, has one stripe more than the asexual flag. The pink was changed to peach as a way to show that the desired relationship type is romantic, rather than sexual.
The third alternate cupioromantic flag was proposed by Fandom user idratherhavecake on January 20, 2021. The first three stripes have the same meanings as the cupiosexual flag, and the final pink stripe was switched out for green to represent being aromantic.
The alternate flag by Fandom user Mothfree were designed in September 2021. The darker pink represents love, the lighter pink represents lack of attraction, the white represents relationships, the lighter green represents romanticism, and the darker green represents romance.
The cupioromantic symbol was created on October 28, 2021, for an LGBT+ symbols poster. It consists of a heart and a slash through it to represent a lack of romantic attraction but a heart at the tip to represent a desire or taste for romantic relationships. Along with the cupiosexual symbol, it was created by Fandom user WiiFyneLM.
Etymology
The prefix cupio- comes from the Latin word cupio, meaning «to desire» or «to long for».
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Frayromantic
Frayromantic (also known as ignotaromantic) is a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. It is defined as when someone only experiences romantic attraction towards those that they are not deeply connected with, and lose that attraction as they get to know the individuals. Frayromantic is often described as being «the opposite of demiromantic».
Frayromantic can be a romantic orientation on its own or can combined with other orientations. For example, one could be frayromantic and homoromantic, meaning that when one does experience romantic attraction it’s only towards individuals of the same gender.
Frayromantic individuals still after losing their romantic attraction can have queerplatonic attraction or other form of attraction at a individualspe, like alterous attraction.
The sexual counterpart to frayromantic is fraysexual.
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History
Frayromantic was coined alongside fraysexual by Edensmachine (now deactivated) via tumblr blog MOGAI-Archive (also deactivated) sometime around July 19, 2014. [1]
Ignotromantic on the other hand was coined by Aroacesafespace sometime around or before December 14, 2014. [2]
Flag Meaning
Blue and cyan are meant to represent strangers or acquaintances, with blue as the complementary color to red and yellow, which symbolize romantic and platonic love. The white stripe represents a lack of attraction, and the grey stripe represents confusion about romantic attraction.
The five stripe redesign was created on October 18, 2020 by an anonymous wiki user. The flag was created since beforehand, the fraysexual and frayromantic flags were the same. The flag was flipped upside down, given an additional grey stripe, and the shades of blue were tinted slightly green to represent the aromantic spectrum.
The symbol was created 26th October 2021 by wiki user WiiFyneLM by removing the sector present in the demiromantic symbol and adding a line through to match the fraysexual symbol.
Etymology
The prefix fray- comes from the Olde English word for stranger.
